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Iimbono ezixhaphakileyo malunga… nokuxhalaba ngokubanzi

Iimbono ezixhaphakileyo malunga… nokuxhalaba ngokubanzi

"Vele uphefumle!" “Ukuzikhathaza ngekhe kulungise!”

Ukuba la mabinzana akwenza ufune ukukhwaza, awuwedwa. Kuba nje abantu besaphila, bebenexhala- kodwa isekhona indlela yokuhamba xa kufikwa ekuqondeni ngokupheleleyo ukuba kuthetha ntoni ukuxhalaba kwinqanaba ngalinye. Abantu ngokubanzi bakulungele ngakumbi ukufunda kule minyaka idlulileyo, njengoko ukungafihli okujikeleze impilo yengqondo kuya kusanda, kodwa kusekho iintsomi ezininzi ezenze indlela yazo kwinkolelo ngokubanzi kwaye zenqaba ukuntywila. 

Ukucela umngeni koku kungavisisani kubalulekile-ukuba uhlala unexhala, unokuziva ngathi abo bakungqongileyo abakuqondi okanye bakubone ngokwahlukileyo kule nto uyiyo. Usenokuzikholelwa ezinye zeentsomi ngokwakho:


Kuya kufuneka ubenovalo

Xa ucinga nge-GAD, unokuba nomfanekiso othile wento ethetha ngentloko yakho. Nangona kunjalo, wonke umntu unamava akhe kwaye unokuba nawo nokuba awuhlangabezani neempawu ezizezinye.

Ayisiyomfuneko yokuba noloyiko (rhoqo okanye ngalo lonke ixesha) ukuba ufumaneke unengxaki yoxinzelelo. Iimpawu zakho zinokuyalela ukuba ubandezeleka yi-GAD okanye enye into efana nayo uxinzelelo lwentlalo (phobia yentlalo) or uphazamiseko.

Ukuhlaselwa kukothuka kunye nokuhlaselwa koxinzelelo kwahluke kancinci. Uhlaselo lokuxhalaba luza emva kwexesha lexhala kwaye ngokuthe ngcembe luya lusomelela ngaphezulu kwemizuzu okanye iiyure. Batyekele ekuboniseni ngaphakathi ngaphakathi kunokuhlaselwa kukothuka, kodwa bayoyikeka: unokuzifumanisa uzikhethela, ungakwazi ukuthetha okanye ukwenza izigqibo ezilula, okanye uziva ngathi uza kuphuma. 

Uhlaselo lunkwantyo alunangqangi yahlukileyo kwaye lubonakala ngaphandle kwesixwayiso: inokuba yile nto ucinga ngayo xa ucinga umntu "ophethwe lixhala". Iimpawu zinokuthi ziqale ukusuka ekuphefumlweni okuphefumlayo kunye nesiyezi ukuya ekuxineni kwesifuba nasemqaleni, ukugodola kunye / okanye ukutshisa okutshisayo, okanye isisu esirhabaxa. 

Ukuhlaselwa okunje kunokuba buthathaka, ngakumbi ukuba kwenzeka rhoqo, kodwa ayisiyiyo kuphela isibonakaliso semeko enxulumene noxinzelelo. I-GAD ichazwa ngokuthi "ibalulekile", "ingalawuleki", "ixesha elide" ixhala kwaye ayikho enye into. 


Unentloni nje

Banokuba lula ukubhideka kuseto lwasentlalweni, kodwa iintloni kunye noxinzelelo ngokubanzi (GAD) aziyiyo into efanayo. Zombini zibandakanya ukoyika ukugwetywa okungalunganga. Ixhala, nangona kunjalo, liphuma ngaphandle kwesiganeko esixhalabisayo kwaye sinokwenzeka kwizinto ezingekho sesoyikisweni kwangoko. 

Umntu oneentloni usenokungalali ubusuku phambi kokubonisa okuzayo: umntu one-GAD unokuhlaselwa ngoxinzelelo kwiiveki ezidlulileyo. I-GAD inokubonisa njengoloyiko olungaqondakaliyo, ngelixa umntu oneentloni engenazo iimeko zempilo yengqondo engoyikiyo ngekhe azive esoyika ade ade acinge ngayo okanye ajongane nemeko. I-GAD ayikhawulelwanga kwiimeko zentlalo, kwaye nabona bantu banentembelo kwezentlalo banokubandezeleka. 

Isifo esixhalabisayo ngokubanzi sinokubandakanya iingcinga ezingalindelekanga okanye sandise imeko yonke: "Ungathini xa abahlobo bam bendicaphukisa ngokufihlakeleyo?", Okanye "Kuthekani ukuba ndilahleka xa ndisiya kumnyhadala? Kuthekani ukuba ndigqibezela ukufika emva kwexesha? Ukuba ndingena engxakini? Kuthekani ukuba ukutya apho kuyandigulisa? Ndingathini ukuba andazi ukuba iphi indlu yangasese…? ”, Njl. 

Uninzi lwabantu luneengcinga ezinje ngoku kudlula, kodwa ukuba ufumanisa ukuba uziqhelanisa nezibhalo kwaye uzilungiselela zonke iziphumo ezinokubangela uxinzelelo, isenokuba lixesha lokuba uqwalasele ukuba ingaba "iintloni" zakho zezenye. 


"Ukuphumla" kuya kuyisombulula

Enye into eqhelekileyo yokuxhalaba ngokubanzi kukungakwazi ukucima uxinzelelo. Ngokwesiqhelo, xa umntu engenanto enexinzelelo engqondweni yakhe, bayakwazi ukonwaba kwaye bahlale bezolile. Abo bahlala ne-GAD banokufumana kunzima ukuphelisa umoya ngaphandle kokukhathazeka kungena-kwaye ukuba baye babandezeleka ukusukela besebancinci, banokuthi bazi okanye bangazi bangazi ukuba bakhululeke njani.

Ingcebiso eneenjongo ezintle, njengokuhlamba okanye ukubukela umboniso we-TV owuthandayo, ngekhe unciphise uloyiko lomntu one-GAD, okanye ungabathumela kwenye into. Abagulayo bahlala bexela ingxaki yokuchitha ixesha kunye nabantu ababathandayo, ukulala, okanye ukugxila kwizinto abazithandayo naxa kungekho sizathu senkxalabo ngqo. Abanye basebenza kakhulu ukubuyekeza; abanye banokuzibekel 'amangomso ukuphepha imisebenzi enzima. 

Ukuthatha ixesha elithile "lomsebenzi" kunye "nokudlala" kusabalulekile, nokuba kuyavakala ukuba kuyasebenza okanye akunjalo. Cinga ukumilisela inkqubo yesiqhelo, ngamana unokuseta iiyure eofisini, ukuzilolonga ngeveki kunye nomhlobo, okanye ukwenza iiyure ezimbalwa evekini ukuze ube wedwa. Kulula ukugcina imida kwaye uphephe ukutyibilika kwimikhwa eyingozi kamva ezantsi emgceni - kodwa, ngokulinganayo, ukuzithemba okuncinci kunempilo nako. 


Uya kukhula uphume kuyo

Iimeko ezinxulumene noxinzelelo zihlala zithatha iminyaka yokufikisa, kodwa oko akuthethi ukuba "yingxaki yomntu oselula". Ukonyuka koxanduva kunye noxinzelelo, ulwazi ngakumbi ngesiqu sakho kunye nobudlelwane, kunye necocktail ebuhlungu yehomoni: ayimangalisi into yokuba 1 kulutsha abathathu bahlangabezane neendlela zokuphazamiseka koxinzelelo okanye uxinzelelo. 

Oku akuthethi ukuba imiqondiso elumkisayo ebantwaneni nakubantu abancinci kufuneka ichithwe njengesiqhelo, nangona kunjalo. Ngapha koko, kubaluleke ngakumbi ukubona iimpawu kwangoko. Kwaye oko akuthethi ukuba, ukuba ukhulile, kuya kufuneka uye ekutyibilikeni phantsi kweradar. 

Kungabonakala kulula kubantu abadala abane-GAD ukutshintsha ingqalelo yabo baye kolunye uxanduva, njengomsebenzi okanye abantwana, kunokuba bajongane neemvakalelo zabo ngqo. Iinkolelo zesizwe nazo zinokudlala indima. 

Ukuba ubunokugula ngokwasemzimbeni, nokubonakalayo, awungekhe ulindele ukuba inyamalale ngokuhamba kwexesha- kwaye ixhala liyafana. Ayibobuthathaka nakweyiphi na iminyaka, kwaye akukho mntu "uncedo lwangaphambili". Kuqheleke kakhulu kubantu abadala kunokuba ucinga; Akuthethwa nje ngokwaneleyo. 

Ukukhula kunokuzisa ukuzithemba ngezinye iindlela, kodwa ayisiyiyo inyango yeemeko zempilo yengqondo. Olona hlobo kuphela lokwenza izinto ngenene kukufuna uncedo. Ixhala UK kwaye ingqondo zizinto ezimbini ezinkulu zase-UK kwabo baphila ngoxinzelelo okanye iimeko ezifanayo zempilo yengqondo; Banikezela ngamaqela enkxaso yendawo ukudibana nabantu abalingana nawe abakwiminyaka yakho okanye ungaqhagamshelwa ngokungaziwa nangaliphi na ixesha simahla kule nombolo 03444 775 774 (Ixhala UK) okanye 0300 123 3393 (Ingqondo).

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Ndiyathemba ukuba oku kucelomngeni kwezakho iingcinga malunga ne-GAD okanye kungaboniswa kubahlobo okanye izihlobo ezingabonakali ngathi zikufumene. Ngamanye amaxesha zezona zimvo zincinci zivela kulwazi olungelulo olona buhlungu kakhulu-ke masenze konke okusemandleni ethu ukophula imiqobo. 

Sukuziva uloyiko lokufuna iinkonzo ezichaziweyo okanye olunye uncedo lobuchwephesha xa kufuneka njalo. Nxibelelana noGqirha wakho ngamanyathelo alandelayo okanye, ukuba ukhathazekile ngempilo yakho yangoko, tsalela umnxeba kwi-NHS ngqo kwi-111.